❤️感情 Emotion❤️
Make friends with people who want the best for you.
要與真心希望你好的人做朋友。
好的環境才能有好的想法、好的成長好的未來。
Don’t transform your wife into a maid.
不要將你的老婆變成傭人。
伴侶是用來彼此依靠的,不用來使喚的。
Don’t bother children when they are skateboarding.
當孩子在玩滑板時,請不要去打擾他們。
屬於孩子自己的時間請不要隨意去干涉影響他。
Remember,it’s not to late to mend fractured relationships.
記住,要修補一段破損的關係是永遠都來得及的。
永遠不會有來不及做的事,只有因自己害怕而不敢去做的事而已。
Be careful with time , It’s best to spend time with those who have lived.
珍惜時間,並和人生真正過得有意義的人相處。
人的壽命十分短暫,如果不活得讓自己快樂點就真的太可惜了。
If you give everybody the best of you , but you give family the rest of you , then they will don’t want the leftovers anymore.
如果你總是為了其他的事而付出全力,但卻長期忽略了家人,那到了最後他們也不需要你了。
當一個地方獲得了更多的專注,那就會有另一個地方被冷落,請好好把你的專注力放在家人身上,這真的比任何事情都重要得多了。
Some people say : “ I will never have my kids experience the poverty that I had , or the hurger , that will not happen with my kids.” , So the kids have everything provided for them , and they become deadbeats. ; After the parent say : “ Where did I go wrong ? ”
有些人會說 : 我要給我小孩最好的生活,絕對不會讓他遭受到我之前所經歷的苦難和飢餓等等。 所以當孩子一出生後就得到了一切,但也變成一個遊手好閒的人,當然最後那些父母又會說到 : 為什麼我的孩子會變成這樣?
今天的你是因為過去的你歷練後所塑造出來的,但當你的孩子沒經歷過那些事情,你又怎麼能希望他能夠跟你有一樣的能力與經驗呢?
You can’t change somebody else , you can threaten them , you can guilt them , but at the end of the day , it is up to the person that you are with to decide whether or not he or she is going to change.
你無法隨便改變一個人,你可能可以使用威脅的,或是讓她內疚的方式,但是最後還是只能讓他們自己決定是否要做出改變而已。
有時候真的不是自己不夠好,而是對方與你真的無法理解你,這時候就只能放手讓他自己走自己的路了。
Somehow when we got married that we would become one , but actually , we were two completely separate people on two completely separate individual journeys , and that we were choosing to walk our separate journeys together , but her happiness was her responsibility , and my happiness was my responsibility , and we decided that we were going to find our individual internal , private , separate joy , and than we were going to present ourselves to the relationship , and to each other already happy , not coming to each other begging with our empty cups out demanding that she fill my cups , and demanding that she meet my needs , it’s unfair and it’s kind of unrealistic and can be destructive , if you place the responsibility for your happiness on anybody other than yourself.
有些人認為結婚後兩個人會彼此合為一起,但事實上,你們只是兩個原本完全不同道路上的人,選擇在道路上結伴而行的而已,但是他的快樂是他自己的責任,而你的快樂是你自己的責任,所以彼此應該去尋找個人內在的、外在的、不同的快樂,然後再來連繫這段已經呈現出快樂的關係,而不是拿著一個空杯子來跟對方乞討填滿這杯子,和要求她滿足你的需求,這是不公平的而且也不切實際的,如果你將妳快樂的責任方在對方或是任何其他人身上,這是會有破壞性的。
兩個人的關係維持是要1+1>2的,彼此互相給予對方正向的幫助才是維持長久最關鍵的方法。